We see it over and over again. Smart. ‘Successful’. Looking good on-paper. And still… disconnected. After hosting hundreds of queer men on retreat at Qasa, one thing has become clear: this isn’t a personal failure. It’s a cultural condition. We’ve learned that the way back isn’t more fixing, optimizing, or self-improvement disguised as healing. It’s a return to authenticity — ending the self-editing and performance for worth. It’s coming back into the body — because thinking about healing isn’t